When it comes to sex and pleasure, we often hear advice for couples like trying new positions or playing with sex toys. But what about solo pleasure?
Self-pleasure is important (and often overlooked). Learning how to reach orgasm on your own can make for more fulfilling partnered sex later on.
Start with a smile
Whether it’s your first time masturbating or you’re trying something new for a little variety, smiling can make a big difference. It will elicit the response you want and help your audience get geared up for you.
It’s also a good idea to turn the lights down to a soft glow for some additional visual stimulation, as well as to set the mood with some sexy music. Many people find this type of background noise helps them relax and focus on themselves.
When it comes to masturbation, you can do just about anything that turns you on. Some people have specific fantasies that they like to focus on, while others may rely on memories of previous sexual experiences. Whatever it is that makes you tick, use that as your inspiration to create an intimate experience for yourself.
While penis-centric masturbation tips and conversations are often more common, there are so many other areas of the body that can be stimulated as you reach for orgasm. Your balls, for instance, are packed with nerve endings that deserve some attention. And don’t forget about your clitoris. Styling it, pumping it and sucking can all bring added pleasure.
Mutual masturbation doesn’t always get the credit it deserves, but it can be a lot of fun for both parties. While it might feel a bit strange at first, allowing your partner to play with you in this way can be an exciting way to explore your pleasure zones and discover what turns both of you on.
Keep your eyes fixed to the camera
When masturbating on cam, it’s important to keep your eyes fixed to the camera. This will ensure that your partner gets a full view of every inch of you, including those erogenous zones that make you so hot. It’s also a good idea to have some sultry mood music playing at a low volume, as this can help to set the scene and get you into the zone even more.
Another great way to turn up the heat is to rub yourself erotically, stroking your inner thighs, breasts and vagina. It can also be really arousing to moan and groan while doing this, which will make your audience really want you. You can also try putting on a blindfold, as this can really kick things into overdrive and add an extra level of mystery to the experience.
Another good way to please your viewers is to use toys, like vibrators and dildos, to get them in the mood for masturbation. This will keep them interested and engaged, which in turn will lead to more tips. Just make sure you’re comfortable using them, and don’t go overboard with them, as this can be embarrassing for your viewers. It’s best to start with a smaller toy and work your way up. You can even let your viewers control your toys through tipping, which is a very sexy and interactive way to play.
Don’t be afraid to show your erogenous zones
While the penis, clitoris and vulva get a lot of attention when it comes to masturbation tips, there are many other areas on the body that can also trigger pleasure. Touching the nipples, ears or neck can all be incredibly arousing. Using a vibrator or dildo on the inner thighs, nipples and neck can be just as satisfying as using it on the anal area.
It can be tempting to stick with a certain technique for masturbation, but if you want to increase your orgasms and arousal levels, it’s worth experimenting with other techniques. For example, some people enjoy stimulating the nipples or vulva by gently stroking them with their hands or fingers. Others like to use a hairbrush on their clitoris or a pillow to grind into.
It’s also worth trying other ways of triggering pleasure on the genitals, such as using the perineum (the nerve-packed space between the anus and scrotum) or rubbing it up against something — for example, a wall or a bed. The important thing is to try things that feel good for you and not to limit yourself because of antiquated ideas about what you should do. This will lead to greater pleasure and may even help you reach orgasms more quickly when sex with partners happens later. If you don’t know how to stimulate yourself, there are a number of apps available that will give you instructions and suggestions on how to touch your body.
Make it fun
There’s a lot of advice out there for couples on how to make their sexual encounters more exciting, but masturbation tips aren’t quite as plentiful. That’s a real shame, because solo self-pleasure can be as much fun as partnered ones. We’ve rounded up some tips to help you get the most out of your next masturbation session, whether it’s in front of a live audience in a cam room or just for yourself at home.
Try different techniques.
Masturbation can feel boring if you stick to the same routine all the time, so experiment with some different methods. You might be surprised by how much more pleasure you can get from rubbing your inner thighs or pushing your hips forward instead of focusing on your vagina. Or perhaps you can reach a whole new level of sensation by exploring your clitoris, which gets relatively little attention thanks to antiquated ideas about where you’re supposed to stimulate yourself (but also because it feels pretty damn good).
If you really want to take things up a notch, why not try a blindfold? This simple addition can turn a quickie into a sensual experience that tingles and tickles. You could even go so far as to paint your clitoris with a flavored cream or lube, which is another surefire way to add excitement to your sesh.
